Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Back online and the most stubborn child EVER

I have not had a computer for 2 days and have been going crazy! I have so much to catch up on! And they had to take everything off and reinstall it, so I have lost all my e mails, contacts, etc...arrggg! But I am back! We have had a frustrating day. I am not sure if I mentioned that Gracie has suddenly decided to not be potty trained anymore. After almost 6 weeks of doing great, by herself. When I try to get her to go she screams "NO, I NOT GO". And then pees on the floor. I have been trying not to make a big deal about it. Some days she is fine and doesn't have one accident, and others she never makes it to the potty once all day. It is exhausting. But today was different. I tried to get her to go before school and she started screaming "NO, it hurt". Then she went a tiny bit, and jumped off and refused to go anymore. So I took her to school and warned the teacher to keep an eye on her and try and get her to go. The teacher came to get me out of Cameron's class where I was working to say that she did the same thing with her. She screamed that it hurt and would only go a tiny bit. SO I called the doctor. They had us come right in. They checked her out and gave me a cup. They told me I had 3 hours to make her pee in the cup. I walked across the street to the Mall and got her some juice. Then I took her to the bathroom. 20 minutes of screaming later, we emerged with an empty cup. We drank some more. We walked some more. We went to the Disney store to pick out a present for when she finally peed(bad mommy, I know). She said she had to go Now. So we ran to the bathroom and more of the same. Screaming, crying,(Gracie, too) not going. I am so tired by this point. It has been 2 hours. I call Scott crying. Poor guy, what is he supposed to do? I haven't sat down all day. She hasn't had a nap. We went one more time and I said we were staying in there until she peed. She finally did. They tested it and they do not think it is an infection. They think she is stubborn. God help me when this child is 12. So, what should I do? Should I go back to diapers? I just don't have the energy for this...

7 comments:

Michelle said...

Yeah, I think you should try the diapers or pullups again. She is pretty smart, and if she asks why she has to wear them, you can tell her that she isn't ready for big girl panties if she won't pee pee in the potty. If she doesn't ask why, maybe she just isn't quite ready to be potty trained yet. Also, I think you should maybe ask your doctor about having more tests done of seeing a specialist or something. I don't think she would say it hurts if it didn't. Poor baby. Poor you!

Old Lush said...

Oh, I hope you ARE feeling OK. There are some days that are SO DAMN DIFFICULT!

But, it's funny, because having met Gracie, she is one tough (cute) cookie!

Kristin said...

I have to tell you, I HATE potty training and Eva can wear damn diapers for the rest of her life... I'm not taking them off until she begs me on her wedding day!

Good luck with Miss Gracie... hope it is just stubborn and nothing is wrong!

Perrin said...

I say let her do it her own way even if it seems like a step back for you. I learned that potty training is just one of those things that THEY have to control. It can get ugly quick if they decide to dig their heels in. My daughter is also very stubborn and I just had to let her do it her way. When I gave in she sort of gave in too and potty trained quickly. But her friend was going through it at the same time and she had a 12 month battle with her mom, who was insistent that she be out of diapers by 3. It wasn't pretty.

One Lucky Mom said...

How frustrating. I hate days like that.

You know Maggie did that. Not after 6 weeks, after about 3 days. She's even done the it hurts thing, but was going normally, so I didn't worry too much. I finally put her back in diapers. I was just too tired of cleaning up after her. After about 2-3 months of diapers, she decided to potty train again. She's still doing well, but I live in fear of regression a second time. I don't know. May be diapers will bother her? Who knows? There's a little girl I know--not one of mine--who's approaching 3.5 still going back and forth.

Good luck.

Catie&Meigan'sMom said...

oh gosh Lisa...I feel for you!

I had to do that with Meigan and Catie before....trying to get a 2yrs. old to pee in a cup...are they nuts?? it's impossible...I had no success with either of my girls...and their "hurting" stopped...and I spent long times in bathrooms trying to hold a screaming 2yrs. old on a potty...it's horrible and it makes you feel horrible too, like we're torturing them or something...

I find when Meig says it "hurts" it's because she's going potty herself, wiping herself and not doing a good job...a little supervision by me and some vaseline cures it..(that came from my Ped)...

what a day for you...how exhausting...these girls are stubborn..Meigan is HORRID right now...unbelievably defiant,wants to do EVERYTHING by herself, irritating her big sister every waking hour...I'm exhausted too!

Meigan wears a diaper at night...she doesn't get it yet, to be in undies at night..we've tried with no luck..

hang in there...this might be a quick phase for Gracie and she'll jump back into her little undies...

Kristin

Ninotchka said...

I shed many tears in the fall when Anna Sofia was born and Elle regressed. I feel for you, hun. Hang in there. She can't NOT go forever.